Moving to a new city carries with it a couple of challenges that you may never have faced before, one of them being that you leave behind all the people that you have formed bonds with and share great memories with. This is normal, as we grow up we all go our separate ways, but cherish the memories we have made with the people we have grown to love. But this doesn’t mean it is time to become isolated and focus only on your work, that can get your skills up, but will quickly drain you. People are social beings and need company and friends, so East Coast to West Coast Movers is here to help people who are new to moving, and are not sure on how to go about making friends in an entirely new city. There is one thing to keep in mind throughout the whole process, and that is that when you are out and about you will be from a completely different city, an adult probably and have a full-time job, people will understand that you are looking to form some social circle as soon as they hear you are new in town, so don’t feel shy and don’t hesitate to go out there and start some new friendships.
A good psychology
This point is one of the foundations from which you start. To go out and make friends you have to be in a good state, at least not look like you are barely holding on and desperate. People will understand you and be willing to work with, in fact, everybody loves meeting somebody new. All you have to do is be yourself, provide a fun vibe and not let your nerves get the better of you.
– It can take some time, you aren’t going to form a strong bond with somebody in a hurry. Let time take its course and don’t feel you need to make things go faster, all healthy friendships are formed naturally. If it isn’t working out with one group, feel free to try another.
– You won’t be able to focus on your social life right away fully, you will have to handle that in stages. Don’t get discouraged if the process isn’t as fast as you are used to.
You might have to do something new.
In your hometown, the whole process probably seemed to happen without you having to make an effort. You just fell into a group of people and things hit it off perfectly. The problem in a new city is that you don’t have the routines and the areas yet to meet people to hit it off with, so you are going to have to make yourself go out there and try some sort of activity so that you can get around people. This may feel like you are put on the spot and are out of your comfort zone, but this is the way you best grow. Accept the fact that you are going to have to make the first step if you want to meet awesome people.
If you have any acquaintances or people you sort of know, take advantage of that.
The hardest thing is being completely alone in a new city and starting off from nothing, even if this carries with it the benefit of you being able to work on your image and present yourself differently to people, it also has the added pressure as well. So if you have some people hat you have chatted to once or twice, or they are a friend of a friend try and organize a meetup. Get in touch with them this could help get you into social events quicker and help you get the ball rolling faster.
Make friends at work, if possible.
You are going to be spending a considerable amount of time at your workplace, meaning you are going to be around people there a lot. Since you are working for the same place, that already gives you some common ground and can be used to start a conversation with people. If you are in a job that has a lot of people you can easily use your breaks and after work periods to socialize and get to know them better, From there you can organize events, hit the town a weekend and slowly start from there.
Taking up or having a hobby.
A great way to meet new people is to bond over an interest you both share. You can find people who share your interests by going out and taking part in a hobby. Try and make the hobbies social, so that you can get out of the house and interact with people. There is nothing wrong with having hobbies that you do on your own, but they won’t help you meet new people. You don’t have to change who you are and leave behind the things you usually do, but just make the general shift to try and get yourself out of the house a bit more than usual. If you usually workout at home try and join a club or a gym where you can share your interests with others. Do not be afraid to put yourself out there with something you have never done before either, you may end up finding a completely new hobby and some new friends to hang out with as well.
Be more decisive and don’t let opportunities pass you by
In your old town or in college you probably experienced a situation where you got to know somebody and you ended up getting along, but for one reason or the other you never really started hanging out with them. You would always have tons more people to choose from and spend your time with. When you are in a new city you won’t have so many opportunities to choose from. You will have to be a little more in control if you want to build a friendship with somebody. We don’t mean try and control them, but just take the step and see if you can get their contact information, or organize another meetup.
Keep the ball rolling
Going out with somebody once, can be fun and be a great way to pass the time but it isn’t going to create a lifelong friendship. If you want the real thing then you are going to have to be determined and commit to making it happen more than once. Plan get-together where you can continue to meet and create better friendships with the people you enjoy spending time with. There is nothing worse than regretting letting a great friendship or relationship slip out of your hands just for not being on top of things you can control.
You are now ready to go out and meet new people. Just keep in mind the advice and you will be well on your way to making solid relationships with people in your new city.